While pondering our March date, which has yet to be determined, I asked myself this question: Why am I dating my wife, especially when she is soooo tired all the time?
Because if I dated another woman it would be extremely hard to explain.
Because dating her allows for minimal rejection – she won’t tell me she has other plans.
Because there is no other woman on the planet who deserves my full attention. Period.
Because it feels good to get in our car and back out of the driveway knowing wherever we go there will be no arguments erupting from the backseat about the ipad/pod. (there’s a thought…maybe for our March date we should just drive around peacefully for hours.)
Because if, and when, our children get married, I want to have earned the privilege of sitting on the second row of the church while holding her hand during the wedding.
Because Family Systems is more than a Theory, and most likely, how Aly and I treat one another will be a key ingredient to the interaction between our children and their spouses.
Because when her eyes smile at me some of my insecurity is defeated.
Because she is curvy and smells nice.
Because “quality versus quantity” is bologna, and hours invested with each other make more difference than minutes.
Because when it came time to say “I do” twenty three years ago, I did. And the vows said nothing conditional about receding hair or expanding waist (mine. all mine.)
Because she tolerates my jokes. And laughs every now and then.
Because everyone we know who has an empty nest tells us the view from the top of that mountain is worth the climb together. Dating each other is part of that climb.
Because sitting in church on the same pew the Sunday morning after a Saturday night date is better than sex. (In one sense.)
Because Merlot, cornmeal encrusted oysters on fried green tomatoes, and Crab stuffed Sea Bass are pre-requisites to conversations that CANNOT be had at home.
Because God said I should. Well, maybe not explicitly, but The Song of Solomon said something about walking across the Hills of Bether, and I think that is kinda about dating my wife.
Because sometimes there are problems in life that CAN be solved by dinner and a movie.
Because staying in love means playing the part, not just assuming the character.
Because our lives are too stressful to have no rewards.