First, let me apologize for my tardiness…I am behind by two dates-July and August. The following is a recollection of both dates.
I’ve heard of a “Triple/ Double” or a “Double/Double” but I couldn’t remember what sport used it as a stat, or exactly to what the term referred. When I called Kevin to ask him he couldn’t believe I had forgotten the term, especially given all the Michael Jordan NBA we watched in the nineties.
But, I digress….the Double Double I am referring to is TWO months of DOUBLE dates! Yes it is true. It seems July and August were prime double date months and, I have to say, we had so much fun!
Our July date with Chris and Lisa has already been recorded by Kevin in his post “Plural Dating .” I echo his sentiments. Being able to share the journey of parenthood, marriage, vocation and the “middle” years with others is priceless and NEEDED. Our date with the Austins in July was spontaneous and full of laughter.
At times, I felt like I was a teenager again with the boys “cutting up” and the girls rolling our eyes. Thank goodness the boys didn’t try to take us “parking”. (Editorial comment: I have no idea to what the writer refers.)
Our second double was in August. Again, it was spontaneously arranged. Our busy friends the Lees had a rare Friday night with no kids and no “gigs” (that is the artist’s term for job).
With marching band, dance performances and weddings fast approaching we had to jump at our chance to sup with Kathleen and Chris. Our neighborhood hang-out Tombo’s was selected for dinner and our favorite waitress Maggie was at the helm. She knows us well and is also a top-drawer baker/dessert maker. As with Chris and Lisa, the conversation and camaraderie was abundant. As conversations of raising children in the present flowed into topics about our future, the food, the wine – and of course Maggie’s desserts – permeated the mood and solidified the sensation that truly, all is well.
When the chemistry is right in a double date you have the perfect blend of conversation, laughter, vulnerability and true friendship. You know how sometimes when you go on a double date and one of each of the couple are closer friends than the attending spouses? Well, we had none of that, because we were with friends who are not afraid to be themselves, and allow us the same freedom. Vulnerability creates authenticity, and these two dates were full of just that: real, live, good times.
No matter what’s to come, the good and the bad, these friendships bonded through “double dates” help sustain our lives as individuals and couples. We see that “we are all in this together.” Just as “no man is an island”, so too, no couple is an island existing separate from the world around us. Community, friendship, and fun are doubled when you double date.