After missing our date in May I felt like we really needed to do something special and different. So I thought I would beat Kevin to the punch for a over the top romantic (within a tight budget) date for June. I had no idea what to do, and then the miracle of television provided an answer. I somehow caught a commercial for Clausen’s Inn on between folding laundry and Yoga Booty Ballet. A weekend package included dinner at our favorite restaurant, champagne and strawberries, and, of course, breakfast. Father’s Day was coming up, we still had not been on a June date, and I wasn’t about to buy him the yard yeti he wanted at the local garden store!
On Father’s Day I rolled up the reservations with a gold ribbon and presented my grand date gesture. Surprise! I hit a homerun! He wasn’t expecting it at all. Yay, me! I can do this romantic thing… I just can’t keep it up very long; my pragmatic tendencies naturally come out. Like many women in the “mommy mode,” I am good at survival, meeting basic needs, thinking of worst-case scenarios, and planning for disasters, or dinner, whichever comes first. But I can do “romantic” for a day.
We made our date for June 29th, just under the wire. Whew, back on good “Tired Dating” schedule. Even the heat wasn’t going to stop this romantic night. Columbia hit a record 109 on Friday which meant the “loft” room I reserved was a tad warm upon check-in… the thermostat in our sweet retreat room read 90.. We ended up moving to a smaller but cooler room. Adapt. And move on. Good mommy’s do that.
I highly recommend overnight dates! Even just a few miles from home. You can truly get away from all the things that pull you in opposite directions from your spouse. You can focus on each other and stay in “date mode” longer. After champagne and strawberries, we walked to the restaurant from the hotel, had a lovely meal, and enjoyed the stroll back afterward. No getting in the car and driving home to kid chaos.
I have to admit I was still checking on the kids until I knew they were all safe at home for the night. The mommy radar is always on and maybe that is what has promoted my pragmatic mode for all these years; but every once in a while I can push that mommy out of the way and support my inner romantic. If you are a mommy, and you are tired, that means you need a date too. Just do it.